Jealousy is a Destructive Energy

We are taught this emotion of jealousy from a young age.

We often feel it coming from our parents. They do this by either expressing jealousy with each other or they may teach us by encouraging us to “be more like that person or more like this or that”, pointing to another young child who they think we should emulate in some way.

We want to please our parents, but as hard as we try, we can't become more like that child because guess what, we are not that child!

So we carry that feeling of inadequacey inside of us. We default to feeling jealous of others because we can't “be more” to get more love from mom and dad. It directly hurts our ability to love ourselves and it is carried with us throughout our lives.

Then in a relationship, we think that when our partner interacts with someone else, who we think is better than us in some way, we feel jealousy. But now we are not a child, we are an adult and the emotion is BIG. Our insecurities have been building for years. Jealousy carries lots of weight and it can lead to people fighting, leaving or hurting each other (even killing others or them self).

I was part of this culture for many years but then opening my relationship, I had to break through it. It was necessary to deconstruct jealousy as we moved into an open relationship. It was intense work for both me and my partner.

At one point in my deconstruction process, I discovered the word “Compersion” and everything changed.

This is a long definition but I think it is important to understand the value in this word.

“Compersion is an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. It is sometimes identified with parents' pride in their children's accomplishments or one's own excitement for friends' and others' successes. It is commonly used to describe when a person experiences positive feelings when a lover is enjoying another relationship. It is an opposite of jealousy. “

So I teach about the energy behind this word.

Also the whole movement towards being authentic, being who you are, accepting yourself is changing the destructive concept of jealousy. In finding your own authenticity, in loving who you are, you do not need to look at someone else to be validated.

If you are wanting some support in dealing with jealousy or self-love in order to create a more loving experience in life, then book a complimentary chat with me. I will help offer you a fresh perspective to lead you forward.

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QUESTIONS

Can you think of childhood moments that created jealous feelings?
What are your experiences with jealousy as an adult?
Are you willing to look at COMPERSION so that you can live a more pleasurable life?